Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

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That fantastic question they ask you during job interviews, which no one ever answers honestly, btw, otherwise it would look something like that up there…

One of my former employees/ongoing mentee sent me a text today referencing this question. Saying for the longest time she didn’t really have an answer to this question other than “I want to have a good job that pays my bills so I don’t have to stress about money.”  That she knew there should be more to it, but she didn’t have anything else.  She went on to write;

“Then I saw what you did with your whole life this past year and a half.  I watched more than a few friends get divorced.  I watched people fall apart at various ages, including myself, and I knew I needed to answer that question.”

Which got me thinking…

Maybe if I had ever bothered to answer that question I wouldn’t have “wasted” all that time trying to get me here (I put “wasted” in quotes because I know damn well the benefit of wasting all of those years learning lessons and growing from struggles).  I can’t honestly say I have ever truthfully answered that question.  Because I can guarantee you if you asked me 10 years ago where I wanted to be in 10 years, my answer wouldn’t have been anything close to this.

10 years ago I was fresh out of a 7 year relationship/engagement with someone I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with.  I was also fresh out of college and I just wanted to have a good job that pays my bills so I didn’t have to stress out about money.  I’m pretty sure I thought I was still going to meet someone and buy a house and raise a family and at that point it would have still been doable by now.  Obviously, because I did it all (minus raising the family).  But I’m also confident I wouldn’t have been like, “I see myself recently divorced and swapping out my bachelor’s and master’s degrees and 11 years in Human Resources to work in the fitness industry while living by the ocean.”

What I told this amazing young woman was this;

What you want and who you want to be is constantly evolving and changing as you expand your circles.  If not, you’re doing it wrong.  How can you say exactly where you want to be in 10 years?

If I were asked this question today I would say, “I see myself being happy and living an awesome life.”  I hope that’s what anyone says when they are asked that question.  Instead of focusing on an end result revolving around material things or status, shifting the thoughts to how you want to live your life; what’s important to you, your values, your non-negotiables, will ensure that no matter what that looks like you can say you are happy and living an awesome life.

To me that’s the true definition of success.  Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

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2 thoughts on “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?”

  1. Love this post. I too am a 34.5 yr old, recently divorced, and living near the ocean (Atlantic for me). I feel like I’m finally where I was always supposed to be. Love your instagram and decided to link over to your blog. When I look back on my early adulthood, I was in such a hurry to grow up, to look the part, to get where I thought everyone else expected me to be. However, once I got there, I realized it wasn’t for me. I had to sit down and think a lot about how I came up with my “goals”, and what that even means. For me that meant recognizing I was living my life in search of security and comfort, and once I got it I wasn’t sure what the heck to do with myself. This past year, I’m working on patience, and appreciation for the journey and the learning process. I’m enjoying being new at things, figuring things out through my mistakes and being OK with the understanding that we are always changing. There are no guarantees in life, which often makes it more fun. i do wish I could tell my younger self to not worry so much about accomplishing things. But I’m happy to have found this in my 30s. Appreciate the process, the people, the experience. Life is a precious beautiful thing.

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